16 Days of Activism 2020 – Day 5

Shining a spotlight on Domestic Abuse…


Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. Even the beautiful stars of Hollywood are not immune to the possibility.

Melanie Brown

The former Spice Girl, professionally known as Mel B, filed for a restraining order against husband Stephen Belafonte, just two weeks after filing for divorce. Mel B disclosed “threatened me with violence and threatened to destroy my life in every possible way – destroy my career and take my kids from me.

Alice Liveing

Fitness influencer Alice Liveing suffered an emotionally and physically abusive relationship with her first boyfriend, when she was just 16. She explained how the impact of the emotional abuse ended up affecting her for longer than the physical abuse.

“Everyone knows that punching someone isn’t okay, but it’s the emotional stuff that is a lot harder to rationalise not being your fault,” she said.


In November 2009 Rihanna spoke out for the first time about her abusive relationship with her ex-partner. 

Rihanna said ….’The positive thing that has come out of my situation is that people can learn from that. I want to give as much insight as I can to young women, because I feel like I represent a voice that really isn’t heard. Now I can help speak for those women.’

Warning Signs of an unhealthy relationship

Intensity – over the top behaviour that feels like too much too soon. Lying to cover up insecurities. Obsessive

Jealousy – irrational, angry behaviour when you speak with someone they perceive as a threat. Persistently accusing you of flirtatious or inappropriate behaviour.

Anger – over reacting to small issues. Losing control. Violent outbursts. Making you feel afraid.

Isolation – insisting that they only spend time with them. Making you dependent on them for money, love or acceptance.

Criticism – brainwashing you to make you feel worthless.

Sabotage – making you miss school, work or something important by starting a fight, pretending to be sick, breaking up with you or hiding your phone or keys.

Blame – making you feel guilty. Making you feel like everything is your fault.

Control – telling to you what to wear, who to hang out with, when to speak or what to think.

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