16 Days of Activism 2020 – Day 7
LGBTQ plus – barriers/inclusivity
Domestic abuse includes a range of violent behaviours which can include; psychological, sexual, physical, financial and emotional abuse, however LGBT people may also have their sexuality and gender identity used against them. For example; perpetrators may threat to disclose the victim/survivor’s sexual orientation or gender identity, they may disclose a victim’s HIV status, limit the access to LGBT spaces, outing a trans person, deliberately mis-gendering or calling the victim by a name or pronouns that they do not identify with, withholding hormone treatment, and undermining the victims gender/sexual identity/expression. For more information on this from GALOP, please see: http://www.galop.org.uk/factsheets/dv-a-lgbt/
Galop’s Report on LGBTS experience of domestic abuse found that:
- LGBT+ victims/survivors share similar types of domestic abuse as their heterosexual/
cisgender peers, but their experiences often differ because their sexuality and gender identity.
- LGBT+ victims/survivors disclosing domestic abuse often report multiple vulnerabilities as a result of their sexual orientation, gender identity, physical/mental ill health or substance abuse.
- The majority of LGBT+ victims/survivors disclosed domestic abuse from intimate ‘same-sex’ partners, though a significant proportion reported abuse from family members, particularly younger victims/survivors, those from black and minority ethnic communities and trans men.
- Nearly two-thirds of victims/survivors identified as a gay, bisexual and/or transgender male and the majority were abused by a male perpetrator.
- Over four-fifths of lesbian women disclosed abuse from a female perpetrator.
You can access the full report here: http://www.galop.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/Galop_domestic-abuse-03a-low-res-1.pdf
Staff have recently undergone specialist training covering LGBT Domestic Abuse, Chemsex, Hate-crime, Human Rights and Trans awareness. A further 6 staff have completed a Pride in Practise Accreditation, and are developing and reviewing inclusion strategies throughout the organisation. As with any form of domestic abuse, survivors may face barriers when accessing support. Changing Pathways offer independent services where we can help support you to move forwards, in a way that you are comfortable with. For local support, please contact our helpline on 01268 729707.
How can you be an ally?
Here are just some examples of how you can be an Ally.
For information on what it means to be an Ally please see: https://guidetoallyship.com/
Using correct Terminology:
Using correct terminology: Getting terminology correct respects identity and provides dignity. It shows we understand where people are coming from and about their lives, demonstrates inclusivity and avoids ‘othering’. Slurs and incorrect terminology can affect access to services and is discrimination.
What to do when you get it wrong? Correct yourself, Apologise, Move on. (Calm defences, listen and practice self-management, apologise and acknowledge your mistake without leading with your intention, express gratitude for correction if applicable, commit to doing better).
How to challenge discrimination at work:
- Complain informally or raise a grievance
- Challenge discriminatory comments and phrases
- Change the culture, update and create policies
- Have robust disciplinary procedures
How to challenge discrimination in public:
- Have clear safer spaces guidelines which show LGBT discrimination is not allowed in the community space
- If necessary call 111 to report a hate incident or hate crime if you feel safe to or contact a community hate crime reporting centre
- Publicly celebrate LGBT calendar events
- Challenge discriminatory comments and phrases “This is LGBT inclusive community”.
How to challenge discrimination at home
- Use correct name, gender and pronouns for someone and correct others when they do not.
- Disagree with discriminatory statements “I don’t agree with you and here is why….” Introduce facts and counter arguments where possible.
- Talk about why its important to be inclusive and respectful of peoples identities
- If you are LGBT seek safety, support and affirmation from LGBT spaces and helplines
`How to support someone coming out to you?
- Thank them for telling you
- Tell them they have your support
- If they are trans/non-binary, ask what pronouns/name
- Ask if they are already out, and don’t out them to anyone else – this may include using differing names and pronouns in different settings.
- Check if there is anything you can do to support them
- Remember just because they have only just come out to you, doesn’t mean that they have only just come out.